We who are in this age group will be the most embarrassing people in the family every time we go home during the Chinese New Year. Why do we say that? Because after returning home, I was often asked about the exam. The ones in your class were younger than us, and the ones urged by the family to go on a blind date were older than us, so we are the rest of the age group that is neither awkward nor awkward. up.
　　Indeed, some of our peers, even younger than us, are already parents, leaving us in this embarrassing situation. Everyone's choices are different, and of course they face different things. If you choose to continue studying, you will naturally be temporarily isolated from those "mortal affairs". At the same time, as a woman, it seems that you don't even have this temporary time!
　　Watching a documentary of "Shengmen" made my heart fluctuate, even a little indescribable.

In the documentary, I didn't see the high-end and upscale hospital environment I used to see on screen, nor did I see patients with 'excellent image and temperament' I saw living people, bloody reality. Some were worried about medical expenses, some almost lost their lives in order to save their uterus, (I saw the doctor removing the uterus from the mother's body for the first time through the screen, a bag full of blood, etc.) Some were young couples who did not automatically deliver the placenta after giving birth and underwent several clamps, and some wanted to give birth, but had to take abortion pills As Tolstoy said in Anna Karenina, happy families are all similar, and unhappy families have their own misfortunes. Although I am not married and dare not talk about marriage, I still have the right to be a mother and the desire to become a mother. After watching this documentary, I feel mixed emotions inside. What should I say? What about the greatness of a mother, the bitterness of a woman, or what about one's future?
Sometimes I have also talked about these similar issues with my female friends. When my friends and boyfriends jokingly discussed fertility concepts, they said that in the future, the child should be given birth to their boyfriend. The boyfriend replied that it was okay, and I would put the child in my stomach to conceive. At that time, we all laughed loudly. I also asked two of my male friends the same question, and when I asked them, it would be great if a man could have children. One male friend replied, 'If a man could have children, then what do you want your girls to do?'. This sentence made me furious and immediately wanted to hate him, but I knew that this approach could only be quick and ineffective because it represented the thoughts of many people at present, and many ideas could not be changed by turning them back. Another friend is studying medicine, and from a medical perspective, he replied that the environment in the stomach is acidic, and children cannot be nurtured! I know that this question itself is contrary to the truth, but the answers we receive can also reflect to some extent people's attitudes towards female fertility. Most people believe that it is natural for women to have male fertility, and this idea is deeply ingrained in our minds. The willingness of women to have children can also be considered to be largely related to men's views on women's fertility. With the awakening of women's independent consciousness and the improvement of social civilization, this idea of women is becoming increasingly apparent. Perhaps the existence of this concept is also one of the reasons for the current choice not to marry and the increase in the number of DINK people.
　　However, in the Law of the People's Republic of China on the Protection of Women's Rights and Interests (Amendment), Article 51 clearly stipulates that women have the right to bear children in accordance with relevant state regulations, and also have the freedom not to bear children. I focus on the second half of the sentence. Since the law states that women have the freedom to have no children, why do secular perspectives and concepts prevail in the face of such a serious and just law?
　　In the documentary "The Gate of Life", the distance between life and death is vividly shown. When you open the door, one side is life, and the other side is death. 'Reproduction is the greatest instinct of human beings'. Reproduction in human society depends on women (there are exceptions in nature). Since it depends on women, how does the view on women's fertility become what women should do? History is the biggest reason for this concept, and history cannot be changed, but as modern people, can we change this concept?